Saturday, November 13, 2010

Avoid Sex With The Ex

Divorce is something that no one wants to face.  It is a hard situation that many people have to find the strength to get through.  Sometimes there are hard feelings between the two couples and sometimes the couple will still get along very well.  It is hard to tell what is going to happen and sometimes you just have to see how it goes. The ball is in your court and you need to make the best choices that you can. 

One thing is for sure; once you are divorced, you do not need to be having an intimate with your ex.  This is not something that is wise because of the issues that will come along with it. You want to break your ties so that you are free and able to move on easily to better and bigger things. 

You will want to remain friendly with your ex.  This is for obvious reasons. When things go a lot smoother, you will find it to be a lot easier to get things accomplished.  You really can kill them with kindness however you do not want to be so kind that you are jeopardizing your health and well being for any reason.  You do not want to get involved with the complicity of having sex with your ex when you are trying to rebuild your life and make something better for your future. 

When you are trying to rebuild your life, you want to do the right things.  You need to make the right choices for you and you family so that you are not putting anyone's well being at risk. This will also include your ex.  When you are still carrying on an intimate relationship with your ex partner, you will find that you may be setting either one of you up for a very big fall.  This is not something that you should be doing at this stage of the game.

A divorce is something that can be very complicated and when you are combining sex with your ex, you are only making the situation more complicated. You need to make sure that you are severing these ties and making it very clear that you are not interested in this part of your life anymore.  You need to of course make sure of this before you file for divorce but having a physical relationship is not the only thing that matters with a marriage.  You need to have all the factors there so that you can have a successful relationship that works for both of you.

There are so many things to worry about when you are trying to rebuild your life after a divorce.  You do not want to have to deal with too much when you already have so much on your plate.  You want to be careful and make the wise decisions that you know you can make.  You have to be willing to let the physical side of your relationship go so that you can free your mind and body up for the next chapter in your life. 

There is so much life out there and when you are divorced, you are able to take it all on. You should not be holding on to the past even if it is comforting at the time.  You want to get out there are find out who you are and what your goals and dreams are in life.  This is the only way that you can make your new life a huge success.  This is going to be worth the self-control that you have when it comes to refraining from having sex with your ex. 

Friday, November 12, 2010

All About The Utilities

When you are going through a divorce, there are a lot of preparations you have to do. You will want to make sure that you are hitting on all of the things that you need to so that you are not missing anything.  You will want to make a list of the items that you have to do so that you can have it done and ready with no problems.  This will help you in the rebuilding of your new life after divorce.

You will find that you will have to start over to put it plainly when you are divorced. You will have to start out on your own again and learn how to do things on your own.  You will have to take care of your home and all the things that go along with having your own home.  It is a very long process but one that will make you feels good when you have it all accomplished.

There are many utilities that you will have to get put into your name once you are divorced. You will have to make sure that you are starting your own form of credit so that you are established and ready to have these things put into your name. Sometimes utility companies will not issue you credit with out you first having some sort of credit already established. You will have to figure out the best way to do this.

You will want to make sure that you are separating all of the accounts that were once in both names. You need to do this as soon as possible to avoid any type of complication later on down the road.  You need to then start building up your credit so that you can start your own good name going.  Having utilities is a big and important step to rebuilding your life and getting back on track. 

The main companies that you need to make sure you call are the electric, water, garbage, phone and car insurance companies. You will want to make sure that you are contacting these agencies at once. This is going to make it easier for you to get things started soon and a lot easier. This is a great start to getting your own name rebuilt so that you are happy and able to enjoy life to the fullest. 

The one thing that you need to also be making sure that the past balances are paid off. You may have to do this first before you decide to switch them into your name if you are staying in the same location where you and your spouse lived. This is going to be important because if you have bills from when the other person lived at the location, you may be entitled a reimbursement for this money.  You will have to discuss this with your attorney and spouse and see how it all works out.
When you are making the switch for all of the utilities you will want to make sure that you are paying the bills on time.  This will be better for you when it comes time to get credit for other things. You will want to make sure that you are on time and paying the balance off as much as you can. This will help you get your life rebuilt and back on the right track where you belong.

There is nothing wrong with wanting to do better for yourself and with the right help and a little determination you can do it.  You will see that you will have a better life and be happier once you get out there on your own and surviving! 

Thursday, November 11, 2010

About The House In Your Name

Usually in a divorce, the couple that is divorcing needs to make the decision about who is going to keep the house.  They need to work this out on their own or make sure that the courts address it. You have to make the decision about what will be done with the property. There are many different options and it is important to make sure that the decision is best for everyone involved.

In a divorce it is usually determined what is going to be done with the house.  You can either sell it and split the profits between the two people that are getting divorced if they own it, one person can offer to let the other one have it, or the other party will buy out the ex spouse.  It will depend on how the divorce is settled to determine this decision.  It is always better when things are worked out easily, but sometimes this is not possible and the couple will have to seek the help from an attorney or court system.

If you are the one that is ready to take on the challenge of keeping the home, you will want to make sure of a few things first. You will want to be certain that you can take on the mortgage payments.  You will have to decide if this is a payment that you can afford each month.  You must make sure that you have thought about your income now that you are divorced and what you will be able to afford. 

You will also want to think about the fact if you really do want the house or not. You have to want the house because it is where you want to stay and not just be the winner of the house to spite the other person.  You have to get through these feelings and then determine if this is where you want to stay and rebuild your life after the divorce. 

Sometimes it is better for the couples to decide if they should sell the house or not.  It is important to think about the financial security that you have in time and think about what you can afford to loose and gain in the situation.  Do you really want to start your new life over in a house that you once shared with your ex?  Is this the house that you grew up in and want to keep it for sentimental value, or do you want to make sure that your children are raised in the home that they know and love?  These are a few of things that sometimes people need to think about and have the right answers for when it comes time to decide what to do with the house.

If you are the one to be leaving the house after a divorce, you will want to see how it will affect your credit.  If your name is on the mortgage to the house, and your ex spouse does not pay, you will be responsible for the loan and your credit may suffer because of it.  The lender wants their money no matter if you are living in the home or not.  If you own money on the home it may also make it hard for you to go out and purchase your own home later on because of the outstanding balance on this one. 
It will be important for you to either make arrangements with the ex that they are going to be faithful in paying the mortgage or have this documented in the divorce or you may just want to have them get your name off of the mortgage.  This may require them to refinance the home in their name only so that you are not longer financially linked to the home.  This is something that you will have to think about and make sure that you have everything set before the divorce is final.  You want to protect yourself as well as keep things settled and peaceful with your ex.